How many times did you want to fight with your boss, or you fought with your boss? Because you disagreed with him… Or he didn’t have time for you… Or he made you to wait for him for hours… Or he had something else to do when he told you that you should meet… Or he expected from you to do something what was impossible… Or he thought your ideas were stupid… Or whatever the reason was…

I have only one thing to tell you: DON’T FIGHT WITH YOUR BOSS!!! It doesn’t going to bring you anything… I know from my own experience… If you manage to tell what you have really calmly without any emotions, do it, otherwise don’t… That will make you just problems… Or it will make you feel uncomfortable…

What you should do is cool your head… Go out with your colleagues, tell them what is annoying you… Why is that annoying you… Take a walk… Go for a run… When you are angry don’t talk with your professor… And then, when you are cool, start planning how to get what you want… I have few advises for some of the problems…

For example, if he leaves you waiting for him and you don’t like wasting your time, you can make yourself more flexible… You can be doing in that time some things which you can stop at any moment… Like browsing through new publications… It is not that you really want to read them at that moment, but just to see what is new… That you can stop at any moment… That you even can do on your phone, if you have to wait for him in his office, since there are some publishers which offer apps of their journals…

If you have the problem that he doesn’t really answers your questions, maybe you should try before the meeting to formulate the question on a few different ways… Or to find subquestions which can help you to get more information…

In the case that he is telling you to do something where you disagree, you should do it… Especially if he is your new boss… But at the same time, you should be thinking to find good arguments to support you and your opinion… Academia is all about juggling things… So find what is the least amount of work needed for what you have been told to do and how much time you need to prove your point… And then find the right proportion for the day, so that you get both results at the same time… On that way you can be able to show him everything at once… A lot of professors like to tell you what to do, but at the end, when you don’t listen to them and do your thing which gives the results which they wanted they are fine with it… So minimal amount of work for what you have been told to do and the rest of the time develop your own ideas…

Professors usually don’t have so much time… So you can’t really find them to discuss things with them… And sometimes you would really like their advise… Try sending them an email, even if they are sitting in the office next to you… The rule about emails is three sentences and one of those sentences is your question… Learn to be concise… They don’t have time for reading your mails and answering them… But if it is something short, they will try… At least most of them… If you put more then one question, they will answer only the first one, so the rule is three sentences one question…

If you have a question or a problem, let me know, we can find a solution together!!!

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